We all have those moments in our relationship where we lose sight of what truly made us happy in the beginning and we start to question our relationships. Take a moment and step back look at what’s going on and if you are still doing the things you use to. To help I’ve compiled a list of things you should always do or do more often to maintain the happiness!
1. Don’t forget to let him know he’s the only one for you!
Often times we get so wrapped up in our own lives that we forget to make time for the ones we truly love. It doesn’t have to be extravagant just a simple I appreciate all that you do and I love you so much will do.
2. Don’t hover.
Now I’m not saying your husband doesn’t love to Netflix and Chill with you but sometimes he needs time to himself. Go out with your friends or go for a walk for a little while. The time apart will be good for both of you!
3. Don’t whine or complain non stop when your together.
It’s easy for us to nag, whine and complain during the times we do get to see or spouse due to not seeing them often but the time you do have to spend together needs to be spent loving each other and catching up on life not complaining because you don’t get to spend time together!
4. Keep the house clean.
Imagine working 50+ hours a week and come home each night to a messy home. That would make anyone feel grumpy. Even if you just do a load of dishes a day and do a 15 minute pickup. He will notice and appreciate the clean home.
5. Have Sex
You’re busy, overworked, exhausted. Girl, we feel you. But it may actually make you feel better if you get a little action, and he’ll be on top of the world if you’re the one to get things going. Sex isn’t just a physical thing for men it’s their way of feeling connected to you on an emotional level as well. Yes I understand it may get tiring initiating all the time but he will find it sexy when you know what you want and go for it!
6. Compliment him
He’s been working out at the gym for a few months and he wears your favorite shirt and he looks fine as hell. Don’t keep it to yourself make sure he knows how great he looks. Not only will it lift his mood but he will love knowing that you noticed him changing.
7. Learn to let things go.
That one night 5 years ago where he went out with the guys and passed out at his buddy’s house or that night he came home really late because he was working out with his buddy. Let it go. Life is too short to keep bringing up the past and making him suffer for it. You don’t have to agree it was right but agree to disagree.
8. Put down your phone
You know late at night when your both in bed and you are turned away from each other flipping through Facebook or Instagram? That is quality time you can’t get back. Put your phone down and roll over and kiss him or hug him. He will like the gesture and return the favor.
9. Show interest in his hobbies.
Now I’m not saying go out with the guys and play basketball with him every time or stand beside him working on the car but show him that your admire what he does and show interest. Ask him questions and make him feel like he’s teaching you something. You’ll both benefit from it and will both love the quality time.
10. Take care of yourself
Nothing makes a man happier than a woman who cares about herself. Whether it be going to that Yoga class you’ve been putting off or go get a massage. Wear makeup one day just because he will notice and remember all the little things he loves about you!
Now I’m not claiming to be a relationship expert but these things work for me and I hope they will work for you! My favorite saying is take care of your husband and he will take care of you! Many say relationships are 50/50 but in all honesty it takes both parties giving it 100%. I hope you put these to use and they work for you as well as they do me.