Trying to cope with an emotionally and verbally abusive husband can be very difficult. Abusers create an unfair playing field so they can be in control. Nearly one in seven American women have experienced this type of abuse by an intimate partner during the past 12 months. While there is nothing you can do to make your husband stop being abusive, you can regain some control over your life to make it better.
Living with emotional and verbal abuse can take its toll on your health and general well-being. Take care of yourself and find healthy ways to deal with the stress of an abusive marriage. Eat healthy foods and try to get enough rest. Remind yourself of your unique qualities and talents. Indulge in a hobby or interest you enjoy. Try starting an exercise routine or reading a good book to escape for a while.
Keep your support system strong. Try to maintain your relationships with friends and family as much as you can. Your husband may try to limit the amount of time you spend with others or sabotage your friendships. Tell them what is going on so they will understand if they don’t hear from you.
Knowing more about the pattern of abuse will help you understand that the abuse is not your fault but is something your husband chooses to do. Speak to a domestic violence advocate in your community or call the Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 to speak with one of their advocates.
Set some boundaries with your husband. When he starts a verbal tirade, do not engage and try match his abuse. Try to calmly tell him that your sorry he feels that way and if continues walk away and let him calm down.
Prepare a safety plan. The National Domestic Violence Hotline stresses the importance of developing a practical, personalized plan to stay safe while in an abusive relationship, when leaving an abuser or after the relationship is over. You should keep a phone with you at all times and know who you can call for help. Create a code word or signal so trusted friends and neighbors know if you need emergency assistance.
I have been journaling for over 8 years. I keep over 6 different journals at one time only because each one of journals have a theme. Refer to one of my other posts on 7 types of journals to keep. https://wordpress.com/post/thejournalgurl13.wordpress.com/28 in total I have over 35 journals. I use journaling for many different reason. To escape from the problems of the world, to brainstorm story ideas, to describe characters for stories, to cope with mental illnesses the possibilities are endless but today I would like to share some of the benefits of journaling are.
First off it helps you get to know yourself better. It helps clarify your mind, reduces stress and helps you open up about things that you may not feel comfortable enough to share with your friends or family. It could help solve disagreements you may have with someone by writing down the problem and finding solutions.
Journaling can also help boost your memory and comprehension, improve communication skills and self confidence. Journaling is also a great way to spark your creativity. I love journlaing because it gives me an outlet and frees my mind from all the negative thoughts I have each day. Journaling has saved my life on more than one occasion.
Recently I have finally caved in and started watching 13 reasons why on Netflix and upon watching this series I found myself relating to Hannah Baker very much in many aspects of her story. I love the way this series explains the story of Hannah in her own words. I highly recommend watching this series on Netflix. I finished watching the series today and felt compelled to share my story with you and give you some resources if you feel this way too.
My bullying story started all the way back in 6th grade at Westwood Middle School. Sadly most of the bullying came from kids I grew up with and spent the last 5 years of my school life with that knew my story and my background. From the very first week of 6th grade the torturous bullying started. Mostly about my weight and the fact that my family didn’t have a lot of money so I had very few outfits.
A kid I knew started calling me a dirty, which means I don’t bath or wash my clothes which obviously wasn’t true but that term spread like wildfire. The next day people stopped sitting next to me on the bus, in class or at lunch. The whispers started your a dirty, why don’t you take a bath once in awhile they would say. It started getting worse. One day as I was getting off the bus someone threw a shopping bag at me which contained travel sized soap, shampoo, conditioner and wash clothes. I was so heart broken that at the young age of 13 I had already had my first thought of suicide. I tried to ignore it for a few more weeks but it just got worse to the point that they were now starting to use my weight as a new way to bully me. My new name was cow or whale. It continued you all the way up until 9th grade. I was so excited to go to a new school.
Little did I know high-school was just the same. The names started again and the mistreatment. I had things thrown at me at lunch. In one of my classes I heard a rumor about myself that I had sex with a boy for money. Which was not true of course but it didn’t make it hurt any less. The names started circulating slut, whore, nasty cunt you name it I was called it. My senior year in high school was the worse. They started a list similar to the one from 13 reasons why. I was named the most likely to have sex for money, the most likely to not take a bath etc etc. I had finally reach my breaking point. I left school for over a week and too counselling which saved my life. Bullying is a very real thing and living with it makes life difficult. Bullying and suicide too often go hand and hand. I alone thought of suicide more than a few times.
If you are being bullied please step up and tell an adult. If you see bulling happening step up and tell an adult. There are also anonymous way to report bulling as well check out http://stopitsolutions.com/ and if you know someone who is thinking about suicide or if you yourself are thinking about suicide please tell someone.
Here are a few links that may help!
What to look out for:
Take a stand against bullying and step up and speak out about suicide!
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Happy Friday everyone! I read a post recently at http://why-girls-are-weird.com about every Friday posting 10 things that made you happy this week. I think this is a great idea because we often get lost in all the negative things in life and rarely stop to take a look at the happy things! If you want to join me next week snag the picture at the bottom of my post!
1. Getting a new journal.
2. Going to lunch with my grandma.
3. Finalizing vacation plans.
4. Getting my house clean.
5. Getting internet.
6. Having a movie night with my husband.
7. Going for a long walk.
8. Sitting at the river.
9. Made a few new friends.
10. Talked to my daddy.
Too many times when suffering from an array of mental illnesses we sometimes turn to certain substances which could potentially harm us. Causing another disorder call substance abuse disorder. Some of us don’t even realize it has become a problem because we are so use to the same routine. Have a flair up and use. I’d like to talk about some of the warning signs and where you could get help!
Substance use disorder (SUD), also known as drug use disorder, is a condition in which the use of one or more substances leads to a clinically significant impairment or distress. Although the term substance can refer to any physical matter, ‘substance’ in this context is limited to psychoactive drugs. Addiction and dependence are components of a substance use disorder and addiction represents the most severe form of the disorder
There are a ton of anxiety disorders, including generalized anxiety disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder and post-traumatic stress disorder, although everyone feels anxiety in different ways but in general they all feel fear or worry in the absence of a clear and present danger.
Adding substance abuse makes diagnosis even harder. The joining of the two is considered a co-Curring disorder. People with co-occurring disorders, also referred to as dual diagnosis, have both a mental health disorder and a substance use disorder. If you feel like you are one of these people please get help!
Here are few articles explaining this further and also a place you can get help from!
Get help: https://www.drugrehab.com/treatment-centers/
More info on Anxiety and substance abuse: https://www.drugrehab.com/co-occurring-disorder/anxiety/
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